Dr. Drew Pinsky: It’s Possible To Disagree Politically And Have A Romantic Relationship
Dr. Drew Pinsky assesses a MAGA dating event in New York City, the performative male trend and more on “The Ingraham Angle.”
LAURA INGRAHAM: I keep hearing this. I keep hearing it, the dating scene in the big cities, very difficult for people, but it’s even harder when you’re a young female Republican in a city that’s about to elect a socialist mayor. But hope is not lost for all of you guys, there are others out there just like you, and so we went out, we wanted to meet them. So, we sent one of our producers to find out what people are looking for and how they’re going to find their MAGA mate. (BEGIN VIDEO CLIP) UNKNOWN: So, we’re here at the Make America Hot Again dating event where conservatives are looking for love. The theme of the night is conservatives have good genes. So, let’s go talk to some of them. UNKNOWN: So many conservatives in the middle of liberal hell, as I like to call it, they don’t know how to find each other. UNKNOWN: Tell us why you came here tonight. UNKNOWN: Because this is where there’s sane people. UNKNOWN: We are a minority. And then it’s hard to find people that have similar interests and are like-minded, and it’s such a liberal heavy city. UNKNOWN: It’s a safe space, you know? We need each other. It’s a tough world out there. UNKNOWN: You see in the social scenes it’s all liberal people with blue hair, they don’t look good, and this is an opportunity to be something against that. UNKNOWN: I’m looking for guys, you know, pro-America, masculine. UNKNOWN: Conservatives are so often left out of the party scene. We go to parties and we can’t meet anyone that actually aligns with our views. UNKNOWN: So, you’re wearing jeans tonight. Very on theme. The left tried to cancel Sydney Sweeney for her American Eagle jeans ad. Why do you think they came after her? UNKNOWN: Because I think these are very angry, hate-filled people, and she represents America, she represents small-town America. UNKNOWN: It’s because she’s hot and liberals don’t like hot people. UNKNOWN: It’s fun to fight back a little and say, you know what, we’re going to throw on our jeans and we’re going to celebrate this, what it means to be good-looking and hot. UNKNOWN: Have you ever had to lie about your political views on a date? UNKNOWN: Yes, absolutely. Yeah. UNKNOWN: I can’t tell you how many dates I’ve had to walk out on because we do not agree and we are not compatible that way. UNKNOWN: I don’t lie about that. You got to be honest. (END VIDEO CLIP) INGRAHAM: Oh, here for reaction is Dr. Drew Pinsky, the Wellness Company chief patient officer and host of Ask Dr. Drew on YouTube and Rumble. All right, Dr. Drew, these young people, they’re so fun to watch and they’re so fun to listen to, but they just want what everyone else wants, most people, is that they want to find someone they are compatible with and share the same values with, but now people are having to hide their political views, what? DR. DREW PINSKY, HOST OF DR. DREW ON RUMBLE: It’s just when things couldn’t get any weirder, they’ve gotten weirder. You did a segment a few minutes ago with Lisa Boothe about woke words. Well, they were been told that the words aren’t landing, that the scolding and the lecturing isn’t working. Nobody more than men hates that. The men just flee that. Oh, they’ve come up with a new word, which is hetero pessimism. They’re hetero pessimistic that they’re not going to find somebody like them. But Laura, I got to say, even in that group, which I, by the way, think you’re looking at something as probably the beginning of a little movement here. But even within that, think about the fact that for most of — history of this country, certain political views did not prevent people from dating. Look at James Carville, who was his wife. Why isn’t he talking about that anymore? He’s married to a very conservative woman who literally ran campaigns against his campaign, and they got along fine. It’s possible to disagree politically and have a romantic relationship. INGRAHAM: Well, there was a piece in the New York Times about something called the performative male, Dr. Drew. I guess describes men who carry tote bags and order, you know, matcha lattes, make themselves more attractive to progressive women. So, we asked some of the MAGA men about this. Watch this. (BEGIN VIDEO CLIP) UNKNOWN: I would say, like, if you can’t be yourself and you’re trying to be like somebody else just for attention, then you’re not going to get that far. UNKNOWN: I am not a tote bag person, OK. But I do like a pumpkin spice latte. There’s nothing wrong with making like your inner white girl happy. UNKNOWN: I would carry a tote bag, but not, you know, I wouldn’t go too far. (END VIDEO CLIP) INGRAHAM: What is the performative male trend if that’s it? You know, oh no. Dr. Drew. PINSKY: That’s exactly right. They’re trying to be more attractive to the female. And if the progressive female is going to be completely rejecting of anybody who’s not mirroring their likes and dislikes. It’s going to be a very sad time for them. I mean, it is just — you’re just — first of all, you’re eliminating more than half of the country and you’re approaching men in a way that they don’t like. You’re marginalizing them, telling them they’re not a value. And guess what? They talked in that article, I think it was in the New York Post, about how young single males are resentful. Well, of course they are. Plus, because they’ve been so marginalized and scared by women of being accused of being toxic or rapist, or God knows what, they actually miss the developmental milestones where they would normally develop the skills of going out socially, and dating, and meeting, and forming relationships and rupturing relationships. It’s really, it’s quite a sad situation. INGRAHAM: Well, Dr. Drew, this Atlantic writer described the real problem here. And, of course, it’s conservative men. Watch. (BEGIN VIDEO CLIP) UNKNOWN: Young men are moving further to the right. Young women growing more progressive. For a lot of women, in particular, it can just sort of feel like, this is not a time where I trust men. We have an administration that is stripping away reproductive rights and protections against gender discrimination. (END VIDEO CLIP) INGRAHAM: Imagine if everyone just decided not to date because they didn’t like the president. What is that disconnect there? PINSKY: Well, you know, there’s an interesting — forget the disconnect. There’s a connect there. This could be a manifestation of Trump Derangement Syndrome, right? It could be a sort of an epiphenomenon or a sign. Something that comes along with this condition, where they are fearful of men generally, which is, it’s so ridiculous and so sad that she — look, she’s putting this gloss on men. The men aren’t putting anything on her, and she and her kind had been the one that have been scolding them for so many years now. And yet, you don’t hear them saying, I wouldn’t dare, I’m scared of her, I wouldn’t dare to — they might choose not to because she is so down on them, so negative towards them. It’s really, like I said, this is all a very sad turn of events. But the group you went to, the event that you — that she reported went out to, that gives me hope that people are starting to come out of their shells again and form relationships. We have a problem here with birthrights in this country too. We’re going to have to fix that when there are a lot younger.